보성여행 | Trip to Boseong

Mingyu is now working at the wine shop of a department store and doesn’t often have two days off in a row, so when he told me that he’d have both the 14th and 15th off in April I suggested we take a trip somewhere. After some quick research I bought us bus tickets to Boseong, Korea’s Green Tea capital.

Truth be told, I don’t really like green tea-flavored things. But I was still excited to try all of them in Boseong, a countryside province in Jeollanam-do, which I had only ever heard of for all of ten minutes before deciding to go there. Popular green tea-flavored dishes include green-tea ddeokgalbi (rib patties), green-tea samgyeopsal (thick-cut bacon), and of course, green-tea soft serve ice cream. While I of course can’t revel in the meat-eating activities, I was ready to try as many things as possible.

And to see the green tea plantation. Apparently the big Daehandaewon Green Tea Plantation is the only commercial green tea plantation open to tourists in the whole country. While I was doing research I also discovered it had been a filming location for some famous K-dramas, though I didn’t find out which ones. I’m reasonably certain that fact has a lot to do with the domestic tourism to that site, though.

We got on the express bus just after 8AM on that Saturday morning. It was raining. Although our estimated time of arrival was about 1PM, because of the rainy-day traffic, we didn’t arrive until after 2PM.

The face of someone who is happy to be trapped with me for 6 hours

We then were able to catch a bus that took us almost all the way to the pension I’d found, called 장원펜션 (Garden Pension). We were surrounded by potato fields (apparently the region has special potatoes that are ready to harvest about a month earlier than other, less special potatoes) and hills and mountains and it had stopped raining. The sun was barely peeking out through some picturesque clouds.


We made our way up the path to the pension without getting stuck in the mud, and to our surprise and delight, a barking dog greeted us at the top of the hill. After barking a few times, Mingyu cast some kind of spell on her and she came running over to us to say hi. The pension owner emerged, and expressed her surprise that we had managed to find our way from the bus terminal. Mingyu explained we’d been able to take a bus and she’d said we should have called her, she could have picked us up. That was the first of many hospitality shocks I would receive over the course of the weekend. This was truly not Seoul, I thought suddenly, as though the thoroughly country views around me didn’t even exist.


And then–what could be better than finding out the pension has a dog? Finding out she has puppies… that almost pushed me over the edge. I held back tears of happiness as the first puppy emerged from its plastic igloo to say hello and tried to pretend like I was listening to what the owner was saying about where to eat and what to see in the area.


We decided to take a nap (may have been my idea, maybe not) before heading out to the nearby Yulpo Beach to eat dinner. When we emerged refreshed, the owner surprised me yet again by offering to drive us to the beach, pointing out all of the places to eat or see along the way there. Among her recommendations were a restaurant where we could eat 매운탕 (spicy-stew, usually made with the leftovers of 회, Korean-style raw fish) and a cafe that made its own bread. We decided to walk along the beach for a bit, but it was too cold to stay there long. Just long enough for Min-model to have his photoshoot and to try to dig up sandcrabs even though the holes they’d left were clearly hours old.

I found out it was Mingyu’s first time to see a mudflat even though Korea is loaded with them. His hometown is on the East Sea, which is famous in Korea as the location of  “pretty” beaches, with bright blue waters and light-colored, soft sand. However, the West Sea is full of more muted waters and the famed mudflats, which appear at the day-long low-tide and disappear when tide comes in for the night. After asking him several times to confirm that it was the first time that he, a born-and-raised Korean citizen, had never seen a mudflat in the twenty-four years of his life, I proudly announced that I had seen several over the course of my travels in the three years that I’d been here. This did nothing to move him, however. As we walked along the shore, he kept kicking over shells after announcing he had the feeling something would be inside, and in my opinion, for someone from a beach-town, he was pretty bad at guessing (a 100% rate of failure, actually).

We eventually made our way to the building where we’d been told we could eat Maeun-tang (spicy soup), and I was shocked yet again to discover there was a fish market on the first floor. As we were walking into the building, a man selling green-tea flavored snacks gave me one for free, telling me it was a green-tea flavored cake. As we entered the market, both Mingyu and I came to the realization that we were going to have to buy our fish here and take them up to the restaurant on the second floor.

As a vegetarian turned pescatarian by Korea’s culturally-encouraged, ferocious love of all things meat and determined cluelessness as to the appeal behind a meat-free diet, I was surprised to find that I did not run out of the place screaming. Have I been so desensitized to the thoughtless attitude towards animals, particularly sea animals, that pervades this country’s attitude, that I now no longer care? I thought about this as Mingyu and I strolled the aisles and I ate my green-tea flavored cake.

I remembered the time that my good friend and fellow vegetarian Chris messaged me when we were both staying in England to tell me that he’d collapsed one day and how it had made him decide to start eating fish in an effort to regain his health. He was feeling terribly guilty about it and although he hadn’t messaged me for advice (I wasn’t eating seafood at that time), I remember telling him that his health was the most important thing and that if it were necessary for him to eat seafood in order to be able to do what he had come to England to do (to study and to engage actively in the country’s culture), I thought it was completely acceptable. Of course he would never be able to completely erase the guilt he was facing, but he wasn’t either a mindless consumer. A thoughtful consumer, engaged with the world around him, striving for a meaningful life–I told him I thought that with the energy he would gain from animal sacrifice he would put back into the world in multiples. He was on an industrial design course at the time and it required long hours in workshop and extreme concentration. He was full of dreams and ambitions and was actively working towards them and in the course of that he was creating what he (and I) believed to be a better world. To me, it simply made sense. Of course, eat the fish.

I’m not on any kind of course now and I’m not even actively creating anything to share with the world these days, but remembering that conversation with Chris helped me to rationalize my lack of horror at the sight of countless fish and sea animals just waiting to be eaten, in tanks too small and dirty to be comfortable. I tell everyone who will listen to me that were I in California, I would not be eating seafood, but since I’m in Korea, where there are limited options, and where partaking in communal meals is a huge part of the culture, I’ve found it worthwhile to eat seafood and participate in a part of a culture that I wouldn’t otherwise have the chance to participate in. I’m still never going to be 100% okay with what goes on at fish markets, but for many people, this is a way of life. For the woman who sold us our pitiful rockfish and then cut it up in front of our eyes (I covered mine), and who very kindly explained to us everything we were supposed to do, this was her livelihood. Thinking like this doesn’t erase my way of thinking, but I know not everyone can or should live like I live. So in this way, I’ve been able to find some peace about eating seafood while I’m here.

As we were waiting for our fish to be butchered, I was looking all around me as I usually do; there were only other Koreans there (often the case in countryside in off-season), it was bustling and busy, a mom with a small child in tow was shuddering at the goings-on around her (me too, lady, me too), and her baby also had a free green-tea-flavored cake in his hand. I began to look around more closely. I found another baby with the cake. I searched the crowds. Adults were all acting like normal for a fish-market–buying fish, talking and laughing as they waited to receive their purchases. All of them were also cake-less. Hmm. Me and the babies… hmmmmmm….

We received the fish and headed up to the second floor where we enjoyed fresh Maeun-tang. Mingyu carefully picked out the bones and hand-served me. He also taught me how to make a lettuce wrap with some of the fish, rice, raw garlic (I was afraid of this but for some reason it wasn’t spicy), and some kind of bean paste. I covered my eyes as he fished for edible parts. I asked him to eat the cheek-meat because whenever I watched a foodnetwork show in the past people always talked about how delicious it is and how premium. He said he could see why people would say it was the best part but didn’t give more detail and I wasn’t about to eat anything that came out of a place so close to the eyeball.

Min and the maeun

After eating we headed over to the cafe that made its own bread. We were the only customers there. It was a very cute cafe, called Cafe Modern.

I was dangerously close to crashing at this time, so although Mingyu would have probably explored more were I even close to having similar amounts of energy, we decided to go back to the pension and sleep early before waking up somewhat early and going to the tea plantation the next day. I ended up falling asleep while Mingyu was watching an animated movie.

The next day we regretfully packed up, said bye to the dogs, and the pension owner gave us a ride to the Daewondaehan Green Tea Plantation (대원대한녹차밭). We started off by eating green-tea bibimbap, which was surprisingly delicious.


We entered the park feeling happy. The weather was great and we were pleasantly full. What was left of the season’s cherry blossoms was raining down from the trees above, shaken loose by a light breeze.

I had seen pictures before but for some reason didn’t connect that I would have to do some hiking. I’d worn Doc Martens because of the rain the day before, but it wasn’t raining anymore and they weighed two pounds each. So it was good times for both of us as Mingyu dragged me up the cliffside and I made him stop a hundred times and asked every time just exactly how far do we have to go????? But the photos that we got out of that trauma were worth it, even for me.

By the way, you can probably see that I’ve put on some weight since last winter. Mingyu keeps telling me that people gain weight when they’re happy, and I keep saying yeah but I want to wear my blue jeans again… Not like that’s gonna stop me from enthusiastically agreeing when he asks if I want to eat pizza or ddeokbokki for the third time in a week.


After making it to the top of the mountain, I needed some time to stop being dizzy and prepare for the descent. While we were on the way down I mentioned that Mingyu was going too fast because of his long legs and he burst out laughing and said that he was actually going extremely slow and if it had just been him he would have flown down the mountain. So I took the opportunity to remind him he was probably still alive because of me.

We stopped for a photoshoot on the way down.

We ended up eating green-tea soft serve but before I could take a photo Mingyu forced me to take a bite by shoving it into my mouth while I was getting my phone out, so no pics available at this time.

We had to catch the 1:45 bus back to the terminal to take the 3:10 bus back to Seoul, so unfortunately, our Boseong trip then came to an end. We ate a light lunch at the convenience store close to the bus terminal and, after sitting through another 6 hours of Sunday night traffic, made it back to civilization and reality, where we have been living since.


2018 Cherry Blossoms

Each year the end of winter and the beginning of spring meld almost imperceptibly until the cherry blossoms suddenly, and without much warning, burst open, the branches almost shaking under their sudden materialization. As a lover of the blossoms themselves but not a big fan of the infamous crowds that make enjoying the Cherry Blossom Festivals difficult, I decided it would be a good idea to try to see the blossoms before the festivals began. I scoured instagram hashtags, trying to pick apart current posts from throwbacks until I narrowed down the search to Jamsil. I live in Mapo which is about an hour of travel away, but it would be worth it if we could see the sights without battling thousands of others to do it.

Mingyu had his day off on Monday, April 2nd, so when I got off work he met me near the school and we travelled to Jamsil station, where we would exit and head to Seokchon Lake (석촌호수). Because it was so early in the cherry blossom season, we beat the festival (which would run from the 5th to sometime about a week later), and had a pleasant and non-crowded time taking all the photos we wanted and not being jostled by the madding crowd.

We have been so busy since that time, plus add in freezing cold rain and strong winds on our one day off together, that we weren’t able to go out again to see them in a different place, but we have plans to travel to the south of the peninsula this coming weekend and I’ve secretly planned to drag him on a hiking path near one of the area’s famous temples because the road leading to it has been declared one of 100 of Korea’s most beautiful roads.

Anyway, below are some photos of the blossoms at the Lake. It was so pleasant that when we were heading off to eat dinner Mingyu asked me if I would want to go back and take another walk around after eating to see it after sundown. I had told him that I’d never seen cherry blossoms before two years ago when I experienced true spring for the first time in my life, and that seemed amazing to him. To someone who has lived in Korea forever, I guess it is hard to imagine a place like California, where the seasons are all basically summer going through moods.

Some Updates

Since the time I published that last post in November 2017… well, a lot has been going on. You may recall what my mental state was like at that time and why I needed a break from everything by traveling to Busan over that weekend. It’s taken me some time to fully process what was going on in my mind at that time. But that is for another post and another time.

Shortly after making that post in early November I met the person who would later become my boyfriend, though I wasn’t sure how it would play out when we first met. He was a few years younger than me which made me very skeptical about anything happening between us (especially because he’s the same age as my younger sister and I couldn’t stop thinking about that). But pleasantly when we met, aside from him seeming very shy and a little bit quiet, he didn’t strike me as particularly immature. We ate noodles that he said were too spicy for him so he didn’t eat much, but later he told me that he didn’t eat a lot because he was too busy staring discreetly at me while I ate–something I COMPLETELY missed at that time. I like to think of myself as a little on the ball about those things.

Despite my missing his signals at that time, I enjoyed our time together. It was a Sunday night. We’d met that time because his day off was Monday. I also had that Thursday free, as the Korean SAT was scheduled for that day. We went to a cafe and chatted enough for me to discover that he liked reading and writing poetry, and that I enjoyed his quiet demeanor. He hesitantly asked me if he took the day off on Thursday I would like to do something with him that day, and I told him I would be fine to meet with him if he was able to get the day off. He was working at a restaurant in Gangnam at that time and his schedule was somewhat flexible.

When the cafe closed we went across the road to a game center where he taught me how to play darts, after which I very nearly beat his score on the first time. We tried (and failed) to win stuffed animals in the crane machines. Then we walked around outside for a while before parting at the bus stop from where I took a bus home.

We exchanged phone numbers and later that night after he had gotten home he texted me to tell me he wanted to meet me the next day (his day off). By that time I had caught the vibe. He said don’t you want to just go to a cafe together and read? So he’d clearly trapped me. We agreed to meet and he came to my area. I met him after school and we spent several hours chatting (no reading) in the cafe, after that getting dinner together, then going to a pub even though he couldn’t drink. At the pub he drank less than half a pint of Guinness before his face turned beet red (he had warned me about this before) and started spilling his guts to me. As we got to talking, things turned a bit more serious (as they often do when alcohol is involved with ME), and he told me at one point that there wasn’t anyone around him that felt the same way as him about some of these things, and that it was only me. The whole night he seemed to be, too, on the verge of saying something, before not saying anything, or saying–oh, I shouldn’t really say this–and then not saying anything. Of course that made me curious and I told him so, but he wouldn’t say it, even as he walked me home and we said goodbye.

I found out later he had walked me home in order to say the thing, but that because I had given him a hug before parting he’d basically gone braindead and just ended up leaving without saying anything. We were texting the next night while I was out with my coteachers for a drink, and after I got home he finally told me he’d been meaning to ask me to date him and that had been the thing.

So it progressed from there. Now about five months have passed. And although we have our disagreements and although he’s young and somewhat inexperienced, he has become my best friend. We do everything together, talk about everything, and he has turned out to be an emotional support for me, especially, and even, on my most pissy days (thanks PMS).

We’ve been able to travel together a few times–

Gangneung (강릉), his hometown, to see the sunrise on January 1st, 2018

Busan (부산), where we’d both been before (as you probably remember) but wanted to go again

and Sapporo, Japan, for a week at the end of February, which was his first trip outside of Korea in his entire life (and also his first time on an airplane)


also, of course, through all the nooks and crannies of Seoul as well.


Besides all this, I also travelled home to California for a few weeks in late January/early February.

In the meantime, in March I began a new school year after renewing my contract with the same school last December, so I’m still at the girls middle school and still enjoying my time here. I’m considering renewing again at the end of this school year as I save up money to go to graduate school, which has always been the plan, but after thinking more about the logistics of applying and having enough money, seems like I may need another year to finalize things.

So on the daily I spend several hours with a bunch of teenage girls while I try not to lose my mind, and then I meet Mingyu for several hours and try not to lose my mind (turns out he isn’t actually shy NOR quiet).

So things are okay for the moment. I’m still adjusting to the being back at school schedule which requires me to not only wake up early but also be able TEACH CHILDREN as early as 8.50AM, which still seems cruel and unusual to me. Add in the dealing with moodswings and body aches from my raging hormones and I’ve found myself unable to write. But time to time as I find moments of energy I hope to pick back up in a better place than where I left off last time.

Busan Trip to my 쌍둥이 동생

Lily, I have something to tell you ….

This isn’t really a text I’m ever glad to receive, but considering that it came from a friend who’d never done anything to irk me, I was curious about what that thing might be. Seeing as all the “I did something that’s gonna cause a problem for you” possibilities weren’t on the table.

It turned out my friend Clara (with whom I celebrated our shared birthdays) had gotten an internship in Busan and would be moving there within a couple weeks. This was the middle of August, and she moved at the end of that month.

From that time we were already talking about when I’d be able to go visit her. The first week of October was a very long Chuseok holiday break from work, and although Clara’s popularity and family obligations took up most of her week, I was able to capture three days to spend on the Clara Busan Tour over the holiday’s first weekend.


During the Chuseok holiday there are infamous traffic jams all throughout the country, so taking a bus was out of the question. I managed to book an ITX which left Seoul Station at 6.15AM on Saturday, September 30th, and snagged at KTX for the return trip on October 2nd. I’d never taken a train in Korea before, and I enjoyed the trip, besides the fact that it took 5 hours to arrive in Busan that first morning.

I’d actually begun my journey at 5.30AM on that Saturday morning, emerging from my apartment, dragging my half-empty suitcase around my street, which apparently was not a popular thoroughfare for taxis at that time (experience and hindsight now tell me that taxis were probably all engaged at that time, considering the beginning of the holiday). It took me about fifteen minutes to flag a cab, into which I practically flew, launching my suitcase on the seat next to me, and then about ten minutes to get to the station. I ran from the crosswalk into the train, and due to high adrenaline levels, immediately hoisted my suitcase into overhead storage and then just sat in my seat for ten minutes, not thinking clearly enough to run outside the train to the convenience store on the platform to buy breakfast.

The train started off quite empty, so I was a little bit angry when a man came and sat directly next to me. His ticket number wasn’t his fault, but it seemed unbelievable that in a train car with 100 other empty seats, someone had to be sitting RIGHT next to me, as if the train service was operating out of the same kind of “let’s put Lily at a disadvantage” point of view that many of the world’s other operating systems seem to be.

Although I had brought a book with me to read, I was too distracted by the various happenings that began to unfold around me to get through even a page of the book during those 5 hours. Among the various shenanigans of other passengers were what seemed to be the attempts of the young male in the seat diagonally behind me to get me to look back at him (and when I did, after meeting my eyes for a moment, he quickly busied himself with his cellphone and ceased all other activity); the family seated a few rows in front of me, two daughters and a mother who, after forcing the man sitting next to one of her daughters to switch seats with her, forced snacks on her daughters at a rate that caused me to suspect she’d brought a whole picnic basket with her; the couple speaking very loudly a few rows behind me, out of sight but frustratingly impossible to keep out of mind…

When I arrived in Busan after that train ride I still had a bus ride ahead of me; I squeezed myself and my luggage into a seat and became gradually more and more horrified as I watched the bus fill up around me and fill up the passageways that I would need to drag myself and my luggage down to get out at Gwangan Station.

Getting out was every bit as much of a nightmare as I imagined it would be; while I was shuffling towards the back door, pushing my luggage in front of me and probably rolling over people’s feet with it, a car zoomed in front of the bus right in front of a red light. Naturally the driver slammed on his brakes and I almost fell over, instead crushing my left hip into the side of a seat next to me. The French tourists sitting there observed me quietly and then began talking about foreigner’s fashion. While I was glad to have sparked that conversation, I was more than ready to get off the bus when it finally pulled to a stop and released me.

I waited for Clara at the subway exit, and without meaning to the first thing she said when she greeted me was “you’ve lost so much weight!”

It’s true. Everyone who hasn’t seen me for a while says this as soon as they see me these days. My ex-bf/friend whom I’d meet a few days later also said “Lily, you’re looking thinner” as soon as he saw me, too. In Korean culture this is almost exclusively meant as a compliment. While I struggle to accept it as such because I lost this weight due to illness, I know that my friends don’t know that and are saying it halfway out of surprise, so I let it go.

Anyway Clara apologized to me later for being “so Korean” by doing that because she knows I don’t like it ㅋㅋㅋㅋ Which is just one of the reasons she’s such a good friend to me….

It was great to see Clara after several months. We made the first stop at her home so I could drop off my luggage, which I’d packed only half-full in order to have room for all the vintage clothing I planned to buy at the 국재시장 (International Market).

We made our first stop at a restaurant called Stone Street, where I entered into mental breakdown because of a boy problem. I cried and chattered at Clara about it for maybe two hours. Because of the emotional distress I endured at that time, I don’t remember much about the food, but I do remember that I liked it, because who doesn’t like pizza and pasta?

After eating, we made our way to the International Market. We walked slowly through the stalls, Clara documenting me documenting the things we saw.

It took us a while of wandering around to find the vintage stores. Although we’d walked by them earlier, I could only remember the general area of the stores with “vintage” on their signs. Clara told me that the thing I do to Korean signs—glaze over the words I don’t instantly recognize—she does with English signs, so she hadn’t even noticed the English words “vintage” plastered all over the storefronts. When we finally found the stores, Clara bought a pink winter coat after deciding to replace the gaudy, faux-gold button at the neck. I find this is usually the problem with vintage clothing. I like everything else about it, but the buttons are ugly. Thankfully buttons are not that difficult to replace.


I also displayed my decided lack of talent for photography by taking this photo below. Clara took one look at it and gave me an angry expression. I told her she had to be the trip photographer from now on, although I probably didn’t have to even say it.


We walked around a lot of shops. I tried on some hats and picked up things and walked around with them before putting them back. So in the end, I didn’t exit the International Market with any vintage clothes, but Clara did take some great photos of things for me.

Including… us~!


After fighting our way through crowds to eat 씨앗 호떡 (sshi-aht ho-ddeok), pancakes filled with sugar syrup and sunflower seeds, we flagged down a taxi to take to the Gamcheon Culture Village (감천문화마을).

It was dark by the time we reached the village, but the lights from the houses shining on the hill were very picturesque. Much more so than ME, but that didn’t stop Clara from shooting away as if I looked like a model.

She kept saying “show these to your dad, please, to prove I’m taking care of you.”

Even though I’m older, sometimes it feels like Clara is the true 언니.

We took some photos together in the 인생네컷 photo booth which is very popular in Korea these days. Although we failed our first attempt, Clara described our second shot as a four-frame transformation “from mug-shot to cutie.”

Clara explained to me that a “moon village” is a village built on a hill, with houses close together and very steep inclines leading to them. Usually poorer people lived in these villages because of the extremely high location, so high it was close to the moon. I experienced some of these steep hills and climbing because we had to get to the bus stop that would put us on the town bus which would take us to the main bus we could use to get to Clara’s home near Gwangalli. We walked down and then up for maybe 15 minutes. At one point Clara hailed a passing old man and asked him how long it would take to go to the elementary school where the bus stop was. He said we still had a ways to go. That’s when we started walking backward up the hill.

One thing I would like to impart to the reader is the absolutely absurd, crazy, and frightening experience of riding in a Busan bus. This bus driver was careening down the mountain, flying past bus stops, winding through the tight squeezing corners with what appeared to me to be a kind of contented disregard for the fear of death he was incurring in the single foreigner in the backseat.

we’re tired from our walk up the hill and very scared bc the bus driver is wild

However, as you may have guessed, I survived that “Mr. Toad’s wild ride” (which is what my mom always used to call being driven around by my dad, but I’ve found out that that is not true). For dinner, Clara found a restaurant which had a vegetarian burger, and what was even better is it was at Gwangalli beach.

광안대교 (Gwangan Bridge) is a famous bridge, and I still don’t know exactly why. But it looks good in photos. And knowing Koreans’ borderline-obsessive worship of beauty, that could actually be the reason behind its fame. But I really liked the beach. My hometown is close to the beach and the small elementary/junior high that I went to was about a five minutes’ walk from the sea, so we often ran along the coast for our P.E. classes. Since my university days, whenever I was feeling particularly stressed or anxious, I would take a drive along the coast highway, windows rolled down to pull in whatever bonfire or ocean scents were out that day. Living in Seoul is great for other reasons, but something always feels peaceful when I’m near the ocean.

Gwangalli beach is clean, and although crowded, there’s enough space to walk around without feeling like you’re intruding on anybody. It’s a very picturesque landscape in both day and night. My personal photographer Clara took this as her signal to photograph me more times than I’ve ever been photographed in my whole life.


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After walking along the beach for a while, we headed to Butcher’s Burger, the place Clara had found on her self-declared mission to “find some vegetarian place or any place which can be vegetarian place.” And she, “the best proved tour guide in Busan,” completed her task with beauty and grace.

I really enjoyed the burger, although it fell apart as soon as I began to eat it. Although there were a lot of “fun” and interesting burgers to choose from, I chose the classic cheeseburger option because it had pickles on it (lol). It’s actually so difficult to find pickles in Korea, I mean Jewish-deli style sour pickles and not those weird sweet pickles that you can actually find everywhere here. The first sign that bread-and-butter pickles are weird is that they’re called bread-and-butter pickles. Why?

Anyway, I recommend this place for those of you who visit Gwangalli beach. The food was good and portion sizes were very large (as you can see). The atmosphere was so pleasant and good. We sat at the bench with a good view of the seafront and spent time people watching, wondering where all of the cute boys in Busan were.

After dinner we decided to make a wish lantern. While I wrote only a single word onto my side, Clara made a very detailed and specific wish for me on her side. You can tell by my expression what I thought about that.

Although we’d bought a couple bottles of special Busan-made soju from a convenience store on the walk home, we were both so tired that we fell asleep without drinking it at all. But I did manage to flirt with Clara’s plush bear before knocking out, which was a nice way to end the day.



While we’d been quite active during the first day, day 2 was slightly lazier and began with a trip to a vegetarian restaurant called “Vegi Narang” (베지나랑), to my obvious delight. We ordered the “bean cutlet” and “sweet and sour fake-pork,” and Clara was very impressed by the texture of this “vegetarian” food. Korean people are forever baffled by the idea of being a vegetarian, and unfailingly (to my constant chagrin) ask me if I eat only salad, then, if I’m this so-called-vegetarian-thing. But every friend who’s accompanied me to a vegetarian restaurant that serves fake meat is always so surprised that it tastes good, and then suddenly becomes very interested in trying more vegetarian food in the future. I consider this to be an instance of matter over mind.

On the subway ride to a bus we would take to one of Busan’s famous temples, I received a Snapchat from my dad, which triggered a series of filtered photos, some more horrifying than others.

We finally made it to 해동용궁사 (Haedong Yonggungsa Temple), which Clara told me was one of her favorite places in Busan. While walking up to the temple, we passed a display of “띠” (ddi) statues—the Korean equivalent of Chinese Zodiac animals (but actually the same thing just with the Korean name). Because Clara and I are a year apart in age, our 띠 statues were next to each other, so we did this:


Clara captioned the picture of me with my monkey as “a foreigner who knows her 띠” which, I don’t know, may make me somehow attractive.  A foreigner who knows her 띠. It has a ring to it.


Clara’s photographing-rage continued as we walked around the temple. There was a place to make wishes where you could throw coins into fountains from far away, and to my surprise, my first shot made it into the lowest fountain. An old woman nearby exclaimed “who was that!” as her husband, who’d already tossed a few coins and missed, swung around to look at me with what may have been dismay. I thought wow, I can’t believe I did that. Sorry my hand-eye coordination is so good that it’s putting old men to shame…

As we walked along the seaside to go back to our bus stop, we ran across the scene of the place where I almost made Clara cry. Although I’m typically extremely camera-shy, Clara’s photo-taking rampage over the course of two days had attuned me to the possibilities of where to take a photo. So I spotted a bench under a heart-shaped sculpture, but Clara didn’t see it. So I pointed it out and said to her, “let’s take a picture there!” which was the phrase that incited several minutes of expressions of disbelief, and continued references to the moment later on at random times—I can’t believe you said let’s take a picture…

We wanted to drink the soju we’d neglected the night before, so for dinner we went to a 술집 (백화료리집) that Clara told me had a 90’s Korean vibe to it. We startled the waiter by asking to omit the 곱창 from one of the popular stews; after he asked the kitchen, he reported back that it was possible to omit it, but then the dish probably wouldn’t taste good. I hear this exact same remark every single time I ever ask to take the meat out of something. But unsurprisingly, the soup was really good even without the cow intestine. Although I believe that Korean people have never tasted anything without the meat in it, they always assume and insist that the flavor that is not meat is an undelicious flavor. I invite them to try something without it and then try to tell me that again.

One of the reasons Clara chose this place is because their “signature” dish is deep-fried eggplant. It was better than I’d expected, and partly because of that I was able to down half a bottle of soju, but not without crying.

After leaving the pub Clara suddenly announced that she wanted ice cream, so we walked around through the crowded area waving 되지바 around.

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Clara took the following photos of me as we ascended from Gwangan station, which she had warned me was a very deep station but whose depth I underestimated until walking up this fourth set of stairs while tipsy.


The next morning we decided to go back to Gwangalli village to have a more traditional brunch at “Wonders” café. I ordered the brunch set sans bacon, and Clara ordered Rose risotto without shrimp. I’m not a big fan of risotto but I admit it was attractive.

The restaurant also provided an ocean view. We spent time talking there while I made eyes at the cute waiter with the startlingly low voice who’d taken our orders. Hopefully he still remembers me, the white girl who meaninglessly flirted with him mere hours before going back to Seoul…

After packing up my things and receiving some snacks from Clara for the train ride back, it was time to take the bus to Busan Station, from where I would take the KTX back to Seoul. Although I barely survived the packed-bus ride, the KTX was much more comfortable than the ITX, as it took only just over two hours to reach Seoul Station. I took a taxi back home, which was great until the taxi driver got mad at me for not having automatic debit set up on my card and tried to lecture me about saving him time by making the card into a transportation card, taking like three minutes to be all mad at me when he could have just swiped my card in the card reader and waited five whole seconds for the charge to clear…

In the half-year that I’ve known Clara now, she’s been such a big emotional support to me through my various emotional escapades, has supported my various attempts at socialization and hermitization, and has been someone I absolutely look forward to spending time with. We contact each other regularly and from the first time we met we’ve gotten along so well that we’ve called each other twins from the offset, rendering the nicknames “쌍둥이 동생” / “쌍둥이 언니” that we use often to refer to each other across social media. We’ve shared our poems with each other and consulted each other about not only languages but various situations in which we need advice or just someone to rant to. When something ridiculous happens to me I can tell her about it and she sympathizes. I feel so lucky to have run across a friendship like the one Clara has offered to me completely by chance, and I was so happy to visit her in Busan. I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to take another trip to see her there during the course of her internship. Clara is a friend I respect and admire in her maturity, sense of humor, and kind heart.

클라라야 나를 만나줬고 부산에서 잘 놀아줬고 항상 소중한 동생으로 내 힘든점들을 다 잘 들어주고 위로도 웃음도 많이 줘서 너무 고마워 ♡

원주여행 / Wonju Trip

A friend I met through a language exchange app lives in Wonju, which is located in Gangwondo, a giant province which spreads from the eastern border of Gyeonggi-do to the East Sea. He came to visit me in Seoul last weekend, so it was my turn to visit him out there for a daytrip this weekend.

The bus ride was relatively short, about an hour and a half, and the ticket was only about 7,000 won. We spent Sunday driving around, eating lunch, and going to a cafe with a really nice view of the city.

It was nice to get some fresh air. Whenever I see nature in Korea, I realize that I hadn’t realized I needed a break from the city hustle and relentless stacks of people and buildings. I love Seoul, its busyness, its many cultural offerings, its shopping, its food, music, cafes, transportation… But as a California native, nature is part of my constitution. Going into nature feels comfortable, like I can breathe a little deeper than I could before. The cafe we visited was on a mountain. As we began the ascent, I kept exclaiming “green!” because it was lush, verdant, and bright green like you can really only see in Spring in punctuated, organized scenery in Seoul. Geongu thought that was funny, but I couldn’t help it.

When we were sitting on the rooftop of the cafe looking out over the view of the whole city, nestled into the mountains, with the gray cotton wool clouds descending into the stacks of apartment complexes, everything looking kind of like it belonged there that way, a breeze was blowing and I found myself almost crying. I refrained from tears for the sake of Geongu. I’m pretty sure it’s distressing to see a new friend cry the second time you meet her.

This trip also made me realize that I’m slowly getting better at conversing in Korean. I’m slowly becoming more confident and speaking even if I’m not sure how to end the sentence, which was something I was absolutely incapable of even six months ago. I wouldn’t even be able to say the beginning of a sentence because I knew I couldn’t finish it. These days I’m picking up speech patterns and intonation and repeating them. I often make mistakes and am aware of it, but there’s a comfortableness that’s arisen out of my willingness to try to say what I want to say, and this often gives rise in turn to the occasional outburst of English vocabulary that most Koreans are too shy to display. While meeting people like Geongu who speak little to no English but have been forced by the education to memorize words, I notice in them an increasing effort to use their known vocabulary within the familiar context of a Korean sentence structure.

Wonju is a place I’d like to visit again, if only to go back to that rooftop on the cafe.

Seattle: 1

Back in the day, I mean, way back in the day, the days nobody cares to think about except while tipsy-insulting all the people who were mean to us for no reason then, I attended San Clemente High School and through the International Baccalaureate program I met Sanj, who was a big personality and well-known at school but a bit intimidating to soft-spoken, poetry-enamored, little me. It wasn’t until senior year we began to hang out because I became close with one of her best friends, but despite being extremely different in almost all aspects except academic motivation, we became close. We kept in touch after graduation and continued to meet up when we could despite her moving to Berkeley for school at Cal and my choosing to stay in Orange County to attend UC Irvine.


I stayed with her in San Jose while she was a university recruiting intern at Qualcomm during summer 2013, and now I’ve come to stay with her for a week in Seattle, where she’s been working at Facebook for a while. I’ve been here a few days and am just making my coffee shop debut at Uptown Espresso in Belltown.

I flew in early Saturday morning. Sanj and her boyfriend John picked me up and took us back to her apartment, a cute one bed one bath in Lower Queen Anne’s. We mapped out a few coffee shops I’d be interested in visiting on the way to Pike Place sometime later after getting coffee at the cafe across the street, and then we walked to a little Vietnamese restaurant for Pho. I’d never tried vegetarian Pho before so I was a little more excited than the situation probably warranted.

We went back to the apartment to nap before going to get dinner and start out drinks at Big Mario’s Pizza, which is extremely close to her apartment and where I discovered the very addicting Jalapeño, Pineapple, and Feta pizza which I may or may not have drunk ate too much of. They had excellent cider, after which I switched to rum and coke and can’t admit to remembering everything that followed perfectly.

We ended up taking an uber to a dive bar with a big dance floor, where we…well, danced, with what I admit was some admirable abandon, and where I got way too excited when the DJ played half of Drake’s “Hold On We’re Going Home,” sang very loudly to it, and then complained loudly enough to draw attention to myself when he didn’t play the whole thing…we moved to the karaoke room to root for a girl who sang Spice Girls and then went back to dance. Sober, I can’t be paid to dance in public, but drunk me likes it more than one would guess.

I actually can’t remember how we got home, but John showed up with pizza, which I couldn’t identify at the time. I woke up the next morning still drunk with a bindi on my right cheek and had to rely on Sanj’s snapchat story to fill in the regrettable gaps in my memory. I can’t even share all of the photos publicly…

Sunday morning we went to brunch with some of Sanj’s Seattle girlfriends. They were all disarmingly friendly and outgoing—and all white, and pretty…my hangover started to kick in while we were there so I was spacing out or trying not to get up to projectile vomit the whole time, which I feel bad about… I tried to socialize but would consistently forget what I was saying while I was saying it and found I had nothing in common with most of these girls anyway, so I sat back and observed this as a phenomenon rather than my own experience. But still what I remember most is the feeling of being disarmed by their friendliness to me and then feeling queasy. Also the weird waiter trying to catch my eye at inappropriate times just because I smiled at him when he took my coat to hang up on the coat rack, which I had tried to do by myself. Also I was only smiling anyway because of how awkward it had been to wrestle over my jacket with a waiter while trying not to barf on him or punch his ginger beard right off his pasty face.

After brunch we went back home and began a marathon of Season 22 of ANTM that did not end for me until about 4PM the next day.

By the time I finally managed to drag myself off the couch, get showered, and clean the kitchen on Monday evening, Sanj was already on her way home from work. We had dinner and some (eheh) wine together then headed to her old roomie’s apartment for “wine and the Bachelor.” These were mostly the same girls that were at brunch minus a few. Did I mention they were all white and pretty…? I admit to having a predisposition sort of…against this kind of girl, and yeah, I think it’s fair to say there’s a kind of girl; she comes from a sort of privileged background and, due to her succession of various environments, including university, has had barely any exposure to different cultures or challenging opinions; her “type” is a nice, successful business man who was a frat boy in his glory days; these are facts I gathered after grilling Sanj about them after seeing how they reacted—poorly, to say the least—to a statement about women of color not really being interested in watching The Batchelor and certainly not being too interested in (or allowed to) go on the show. There’s a lot I could say, but I’ll just sum it up: when we left, I was glad to leave.

Girls who are nice, pretty, and as a result of various circumstances generally privileged; well, to be honest, I wasn’t surprised at all to realize they have regular brunch dates and name their boyfriends by first and last name when asked who they’re dating. I’m not really for typecasting, but in Seattle, I’m finding there’s such an overall lack of diversity—which really, deeply surprises me, as I just assumed that all big cities would be notably diverse—that nobody really feels challenged to break stereotype or become interesting or individual. There’s a very laid back vibe here; it fits with the idea that people are comfortable how they are and might be satisfied with everything staying the same.

Todayimg_2499, Tuesday, I travelled to the Facebook offices to meet Sanj for lunch, and my hope in the city was restored somewhat; there was a very active, energetic community there with enough diversity to give me some warmth to carry with me throughout the rest of my experience here; I walked past conference rooms, peering in curiously as people mapped out things and were engaged with each other; it was clear to see that this was a place where new ideas are appreciated and probably implemented with some ease. In a way, it feels like its own world; it’s not hard to understand why engineers and coders who enter the tech world never really want to or need to leave, especially if they’re at Facebook. I’m thinking I might go back tomorrow to try to see a little more of the place.

After lunch at Facebook I walked down to Belltown, where I stopped at the first of Sanj’s recommended coffee shops, Uptown Espresso, which makes a delicious Sea-Salt Dark Chocolate and Cranberry Scone (all words capitalized on the sign). I’ve been img_2501here a couple hours, putting together a playlist and working on some long put-off story notes. In a little under an hour I plan to head out to the next on the list, and after that, to Pike Place. As I’ve got my laptop and notebooks and stuff on me, the hike around town is pleasantly strenuous, but with stops along the way everything seems within walking distance and I’m excited to venture out to see more of the city.

Tomorrow I plan to visit the square around the Space Needle, which has some museums and other little places to see. Rather than shopping, which is my regular routine when I sightsee in Seoul, I’m trying hard to focus on taking photos of the places I visit and writing consistently for once in my life.

Visiting Gwangju / 광주 여행

Gloria and I met at college during our fourth year. Actually, we met through our mutual friend—the first time we met I was mad at this friend and bailed out on our coffee date, so my meeting with Gloria was short and (not so) sweet. I can only imagine what impression I gave off, quite cool when angry and not in my best “hi nice to meet you” mindset. It all worked out, though, or she changed her judgement of me after some time.

{As I write this post, “London” by Benjamin Clementine comes up on shuffle—appropriate, as Gloria and I both spent some considerable time in London whilst studying abroad.}

Although during our years (four in mine and five in her case) we did manage to share one Asian American Literature class, we did most of our real bonding at her apartment or, later, out and about as we continued to meet up during her fifth year of school, after I’d graduated but was hanging around Irvine for a teaching job at an academy on the Irvine/Tustin border. We shared a lot, more than I could have guessed I’d have in common with one of my close friends’ apartment mates—and our friendship was natural, blossoming out of some of our darkest moments—there was some safety between us, so secrets came out. I think our biggest, perhaps first serious conversation about, amongst other things, depression and anxiety, happened in the small food court of a Korean supermarket.

Even before then—Gloria has seen me in several (not quite flourishing) conditions, not least of which occurred after she chortlingly fed me six soju shots, and I withered into the onesies-clad blubber clutching a pillow spread eagle on the floor that she and her roommates preceded to photograph and send to, amongst other recipients, my father

Who sent it to me~ And while it’s too devastating to share here, here is another, taken at another time but in the same location, that sufficiently sums up what goes on when I drink soju (in any location, by the way, after as few as three shots…hence my lack of “going out” in Seoul):

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So Gloria and I grew closer as time passed after college. When I headed out here late last summer, it was after a few months of regularly meeting Gloria at coffee shops on Fridays or Sundays, sharing our personal writing, just chatting, or writing our joint blog about our big “scientific” excursion into app dating. Gloria’s absence as I made my way through Seoul and ran into trouble here and there or went through several firsts while here on my own and emotionally vulnerable after a particularly toxic summer at home… I felt it.

So when she told me sometime in March this year that she’d be coming to Korea, I was extremely excited, hopeful for the first time since the new year that the rest of my time here wouldn’t just be difficult. When she told me she’d be settling somewhere in Jeollanam-do, I cheered myself up by reminding myself that I sometimes drove three hours into LA if there was traffic and that really, it wasn’t that far away. Within reach, at least.

When she flew into Korea mid-April, she stayed with me in my Seoul apt. for a night before heading down to Gwangju for her EPIK orientation, and in that single night and day I felt like we fell back into old habits; it was surreal that she was here, after thinking about it for so long—we once jointly applied to something over here that didn’t work out back in December 2014—but it felt natural. I warned her about the difficulties I faced during my first few weeks here, which she immediately decommissioned by making a ton of friends at her EPIK orientation. We went to one of her favorite cafes from her study abroad stint at Yonsei that weekend, but the meeting was too brief. I kept telling her to let me know when she was settled down in Gwangju and that I’d come visit her.

Eventually, about a month after she’d stayed with me on her first night here, I bussed down to Gwangju to meet her.

I hate flying, but for some reason, bussing is sort of tranquil. The most pleasant memories I have of bus rides are those I’d take into the town centre of Norwich from my dorms at UEA while studying Shakespeare and Creative Writing abroad there three years ago, and the few rides from London Stansted through birch-filled, hog-housed countryside…   But the ones through Korea aren’t too bad, either.

I left from Central City Terminal in Seoul at 8.30PM on a Friday night, so it was dark outside. I watched with interest as we exited Seoul and passed through what appeared to be a quite industrial sector in Gyeonggi-do, and then as we passed through dark countryside and small towns, the view of darkness interrupted only by the eerie, somewhat unsettling red glow of church crosses and the vibrant, nearly half-moon hanging bulbous above the mountains and cities.

I burnt my mouth on tong-gamja at the rest stop—running through the rain back to the bus in the nick of time—at the half-way point. It was late. I didn’t get to Gwangju until nearly midnight (after passing the KIA factory, looking in without knowing what it was and thinking—no, could it possibly—? making cars? car factory? no…—before seeing the sign).

Taxi queues at post-subway/bus hours are never something I like to participate in, but somehow always get stuck in. This time, a lady behind me stood next to me instead of behind me and, I’m used to being stared at but, she was really looking and I thought… We’re not in Seoul anymore. Then she asked me what direction I was going in, and I thought a moment before realizing I didn’t know either—so I told her that, shrugging a bit, and turned away in line. After texting Gloria about it, I realized, she was probably just trying to help me, but I’d been nervous she’d suggest sharing a cab because of the long line and I’d seen people do this before on one occasion.

As I was fourth or fifth in line, I was joined in queue from behind by two late-twenties males who stood way too close to me (and that’s me talking after three-fourths of a year to acclimating to Asian personal space philosophy) and began to pester each other to say something in English and then, after all the fuss, only managed to come up with incredibly dull and random phrases (“I will change it now” / “Really? I didn’t know it” etc). I texted Gloria through it all, and she apologized on behalf of such a welcome to her city, but I was so delirious on (usual) lack of sleep and simple reaction to a too-long day that I could barely count it as my real “welcome.” That would come later, I told her.

The cab driver kept asking me which direction I wanted him to go to drop me off at the apartment complex I asked him to drop me at, and although I said, “I don’t know, I’m not sure,” not wanting to divulge that I wasn’t from here so he wouldn’t try anything sneaky, eventually he dropped me at the back of the correct complex and I waited a while for Gloria to find me. We said our hellos and headed back to her apartment, which is on the second floor of an elevatorless building in a small and kind of quaint neighborhood. I later stopped to photograph the vibrant blue roofs of the neighborhood buildings—Gloria side-eyeing me and asking “what are you doing” as if I had stopped to admire a piece of chewed gum on the ground—but there’s a style there that I like, which I can’t describe in any other way than to say that they’re what I think of when I think of “Korean style” neighborhoods, though where I get that impression from…I’m not sure.


We spent the first day finding our way to a panini cafe, looking out at a small but verdant park, and then immediately turning the exact opposite direction and walking probably a mile the wrong way while looking for “downtown.” To be fair, that is not my fault. Since it was my first time there. Anyway eventually we turned back around but ended up walking down side streets to the downtown area where we shopped, stopped for a while at a Gong Cha, and then went back in a cab and rested before ordering in, my first ordering-in experience in the land of ordering in… I’d heard before, from Dad’s Seoul-born coworker via Dad, that Gwangju had good food, but I can confirm now from experience. Not that Seoul doesn’t have good food—in all the lands I’ve tried soondubu-jjigae, a spot near exit 8 of the Gangnam Underground Shopping Mall in Seocho-gu still carries my heart—but the doenjang-jjigae I ordered in, even the kimchi that came with it, was better than any I’ve had here, and later, at the bus terminal waiting to bus home, the udong was also better than farther north.

The next day we made our way to an area near the university where there was purported to be a, somewhat predictably, younger, uni-age population. We walked around for a while wondering where to eat, found a “casual dining food court,” where I ordered our food to the apparent discomfort of the boy who took our order who expected Gloria—who is so often mistaken as Korean and spoken to in rapid dialect before she’s able to relay that actually she’s not Korean—to order, and where we ate peacefully before trying unsuccessfully to find a cafe she’d seen in a blog. We think it’s not there anymore. In the end, she forced me to choose where to go, so I wandered us down side roads long enough to find a Cafe Pascucci’s, where we parked it for a few hours and I attempted, with small success, to break through the writers’ block that has had a stranglehold on me for six months now… mostly, I gazed out the third-floor window to the foot traffic below. Mostly couples, but not as many matching outfits as Seoul.

Gwangju is… a bit dirty. A bit spread out. The busses are hot and crowded. The main “downtown” is kind of nice, and so is the uni area. But I decided after all that I wouldn’t want to live there; I’d feel even more cut off and bored than I do in Seoul. Being somewhere is partly about who you’re with, but in the case that you’re alone, place really matters. Since I’ve been to London and I know what it’s like to feel like you could live somewhere forever, I feel like I’m just playing around in the meantime and so it seems it wouldn’t matter where I was, but in a way, Seoul has come to seem like home base for me, a safe place to return to after travels throughout the rest of the country. You wouldn’t think it’d be refreshing to come back from a friendly place to a place where people could push you halfway to the ground trying to get somewhere in a crowd and not even spare you a glance, but, well… I like this place.

Going to Gwangju was about seeing more the country in which I have found myself, yes, but it was also just about spending time with a good friend. So perhaps there are more Gwangju-y things to do in Gwangju than the things I did, but I like to think I enjoyed the city pretty well.

Throughout the time I spent with her over the weekend, I found that there were many times when Gloria appeared in frame behind me when I turned on selfie mode, so I began a mission to capture selfies with “Gloria behind me” and acquired what I consider to be a good few. Though she threatened to kill me and declared her hate for me more than once after I snapped some less-than-flattering shots, at one point in the cafe she said out of the blue—“I’m behind you.” I looked at her strangely and said, “okay,” like I was responding to one of my students’ passionate outbursts of random information, but then she repeated herself until I understood that I should take a photo. (After six months of acute insomnia… there’s bound to be some clogs up there, in the brain I mean).